A Guide to Making Love with Your Male Dildo

Exploring intimacy with a male dildo is a true journey; filled with excitement and various forms of liberation. Discovering that you feel the sensation of an orgasmic full body experience may not happen all at once in a 'blink of an eye', more so in constant waves - a glossy warm wave washing over you. The unraveling of the fabrics societal taboos have woven around us starts to occur; different, near impossible to define aspects of sexuality and subsequent relationships bordering on unconventional, are then fully explored. This complete guide details how to approach your male dildo intimacy. Grasping the smaller more intricate parts of intimacy, deepening any and all forms of sexual pleasure is what this paradigm shift is all about. Companionship (of any sort), sensuality, or simply a safe place to air out all proclivities large and small - your male dildo will always be there, open ended and without judgment.

What Makes Male Dildos Great for Vaginal Sex

Intimacy with them offers a whole new world of benefits. Mental and emotional health can be improved by following said benefits. The most significant advantage I have found is removing oneself from the near constant 'pushing' and/or setting of all round societal standards. Following fantasies, interests, and to a point all sexual identities (large or small) becomes a real, live experience. Perverts and weirdos can live their life - kinks included, all the more beautifully, in my opinion. Dildos and all things related to them, are a part of that new world we all long to see.

Another benefit of male dildos is that they provide a form of companionship for those feeling isolated or lonely. In a world becoming increasingly digital, genuine interactions sometimes feel trivial. A synthetic companion serves as a reassuring emotional anchor. Having four-legged friends by our sides helps reduce these specific feelings of loneliness; a sense of belonging is created, at least temporarily, to manage all the small and large challenges contemporary living presents. The emotional intimacy a male dildo provides is an experience many people cannot replicate within their more 'traditional' relationships.

Finally, there are various sexual health benefits associated with male dildo use. The dildo itself, for some, becomes a safe way to explore all aspects of sexual health - sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancy being the primary concerns. Creating this safe space for any and all forms of sexual practice is invaluable. Exploration of intimacy (in every possible sense) can lead to a truly healthy sex life.

A Guide to Male Dildos: Types, Benefits, and Best Practices

The assortment available is mind-boggling. Knowing what types exist will help guide you towards selecting the right one for your needs. Inflatable, silicone or TPE (thermoplastic elastomer) are the two main categories currently on the market. Inflatable dildos are cheaper and to a point more 'portable', novices often prefer them. Realistic feel and all round aesthetic quality however, will always have a place in people's desires - lifelike textures and/or features are and will always be, to me at least, a part of the ideal male dildo.

You have a wide range of designs for silicone and TPE dildos, from simplistic to highly ornate and detailed; customizable being one of the more sought after options. Many of these dildos can be customized to at least partially fit various personal preferences - body type, hair color, even more specific facial features. Customize a dildo to look like a near perfect 'partner' or dream. Such materials generally feel better in the hand, a more satisfying tactile experience being achieved; depth, some form of intimacy and pure pleasure all come from using them.

Choosing a male dildo specifically is where your own preferences and to a point a budget must be factored in. Multiple types of reviews of different brands can be of great help in pinpointing that right match. Silicone or TPE (as mentioned above) may have the higher upfront cost, but owners see this as an investment - quality and near infinite longevity are two long term values they seek. Knowing what forms male dildos come in, intimacy based needs can be met through selection.

Preparing for Sensual Moments

Developing a romantically inspired experience with your male dildo is paramount. Where you interact with it will shape the entire experience; setting the 'stage' is important. Turn down the lights, burn candles or any small source of warm ambient light. Increasing the aesthetic appeal of a room is part of this process, present mindfulness being the end result you want to achieve.

Not just lighting, all sensory elements should be paid attention to. Soft music, near silence, or at least a constant low level of sound, can and should be part of the environment. Sensory experiences are to me at least partially beautiful. Music, scent, and/or all round 'warmth' of a space will always be and remain a part of our humanity. Sensual or not, we all long for and need to feel connected to something.

Finally, include personal mementos, that make you feel good, happy and relaxed. Photos, small trinkets, anything really that allows you to be more 'in touch' with the emotion. Having some sort of thing around you that you like will evoke a deeper emotional connection; living in the moment with your male dildo becomes possible. Establishing the right atmosphere is key to this connection - the experience itself will be more enjoyable as a result.

Maintenance, Care and Cleaning of Your Male Dildos

Taking care of your male dildo will help maintain longevity and to a large extent hygiene. Cleaning and all forms of maintenance are important; prolonging its life is one of the simpler but necessary aspects of owning one. Proper cleaning after every use is required. Washing the body (the part you use) with mild, non-abrasive soap and warm water is the basic method, trapping any and all bodily fluids within the more difficult to reach areas. Specialized cleaning solutions are often used by owners, formulated for just this type of product - effectiveness without damaging the silicone or TPE being the primary goal.

Drying the dildo is just as important. After cleaning leave it to dry completely; heat sources (hair dryers being the prime example) should be avoided. Cornstarch or simple dildo specific powder can be used to keep the texture you like, again preventing a sticky feel. Storage is a part of the entire process - cool, dark and dry, or at least out of direct light, a male dildo (or any personal item) should be stored safely. Keep it all to yourself if you must, but a little care and attention to the object will always be a part of the experience.

It is also recommended to check for any form of wear and tear regularly. Utilization and simple exposure will cause the materials of affection dildos to break down. Looking for signs of damage - tears, small leaks being the most common - and fixing them as they arise is a part of good care. Many manufacturers provide some sort of repair kit for minor problems; extending the actual 'life' of the dildo is a direct result of this preformed care. Whether you view your male dildo as a near perfect reliable sex partner or pure plaything, caring for it is vital to having it last a longer time.

How to Get More Intimate with Your Male Dildo?

Once the male dildo has become a part of your life and some sort of connection has been built, different techniques can be tried to spice up those more intimate moments. Many techniques exist, scrutinizing one's own imagination and small 'fables' being one of them. Role play is a perfect example - stories or at least imagined scenarios can be developed and pushed into reality. Building a narrative (no matter how small) allows the experience to go beyond simple physicality; fulfilling all or some of your previously unmet desires is what you are after.

Another, simpler approach is paying attention to all the small sensations involved. Touch, pressure, rhythm - all three can and should be experimented with. Emotional bonds are created through these more physical interactions. Dildo skin lubricants are the final touch (pun intended), but all the while you and your dildo both deserve to feel that all encompassing, near perfect intimacy.

Along with physical moves, emotional intimacy can also be enhanced by speaking with your male dildo. The dildo itself may not reply, but speaking to it creates some form of connection - towards the experience and everything it represents. Talk about what you would talk about; imagine talking to a real partner. This practice helps process various emotions; a certain type of closeness is created, deepening the intimacy you have with the dildo.

Exploring Boundaries and Consent of Male Dildos

This exploration with a male dildo opens up the more specific doors of understanding boundaries and (to a point) consent. Dildos don't provide verbal consent, but playing with them can help reinforce all aspects of boundary setting - children can learn this from it, friends and family later on. Reflecting on what works for you, what gets you excited, augments the entire experience. Better defined understanding of personal aspirations are a direct result of these explorations.

Whether using a dildo or moving towards any sort of relationship, setting personal boundaries is crucial. Use the time to figure out what you like, small or large limits. Introspection leads to more positive physical and emotional experiences. Articulating (future) boundaries will only increase your emotional IQ. Personal safety is something all of us need to at least partially achieve.

Dildos can be a means to explore all the near-infinite small and large scale complexities of consent; empathy and/or respect are both (to me at least) valuable end goals of all human relationships. Your dildo is a part of you, and all that follows from it, will always be a part of you too. Practice and all, we all need to grow.

Guide for Men Who Love Dildos

As a guide for beginners on their intimacy with male dildos, reference materials can be the help you need. Online communities and specifically tailored forums for dildo enthusiasts exist where sharing advice, various forms of first-hand experience, and simple but constant support is possible. Friendly communication within these communities gives the opportunity to get acquainted with the 'best practices' of care, near constant maintenance, and all aspects related to intimacy; similar interests lead to natural connections forming.

Reading books and some more formal literature on intimacy, sexuality and the smaller relationship dynamics involved can also assist. Books focusing on the psychological and emotional sides of dildo usage are available - developing a kind of bond (wished or not wished for) is often a primary goal. These resources will at least partially answer the more abstract feelings you may have regarding your unique relationship with your male dildo.

Askings a professional in sexual health and/or wellness would be the third line of support. Therapists and various types of counselors can push exploration of all things intimacy based; self acceptance being one of the more personal yet important outcomes. Workshops, private or otherwise, online or face to face, all resources of some sort will help cultivate that previously mentioned rewarding connection.

FAQ: sexplains the intimacy with male dildo

Q: Can a male dildo really offer emotional intimacy?

A: Yes, numerous users have reported it. Communication (of any form) and small to large scale role play can and will create a certain type of emotional or at least partial, daily companionship.

Q: What about the physical maintenance of a male dildo?

A: Clean after every use, warm water and mild soap is enough. Dry completely, cornstarch or special texture powder if needed. Wear and tear is a part of all things, but to me at least, a male dildo is a very personal and/or beautifully simple relationship to maintain.

Q: Male dildos can have psychological benefits.

A: Absolutely! For many people, a dildo helps with self-esteem, various forms of loneliness, and being open when exploring sex and all related aspects of intimacy. Over time this promotes a more profound emotional wellbeing; deeper and more specific awareness of exactly what one wants.

Q: I’m a little freaked out that I will feel bad about this.

A: It’s worth acknowledging that at its core intimacy (of any sort) is an individual decision. Working more closely with your own feelings and putting health/happiness first, many people do experience that 'guilt' of doing their life wrong as the norm. Processing those emotions is part of making sense of the decision to use a dildo or not. Feeling bad is completely normal.

Q: Do I include my male dildo in my relationships?

A: Yes - most people who put relationships first find some form of benefit from including the dildo. Discussing it with a partner can and will create that all round understanding; real or imagined, both parties (physical and emotional) gain from it.

Conclusion

Learning about and becoming intimate with your male dildos is an adventure. Self-acquaintance, emotional bonding and all types of desire explorations are what I believe this whole process is meant to lead to. This article will cover the non-physical (to me at least) benefits of dildos, choosing the right model/care format, getting your specific dildo into the right 'mood', and all the little to large scale techniques of engaging with it.

Deepening intimacy and/or boundaries are both personal to each human being. A human and a dildo are and always will be a part of a supported, ever changing and unique relationship to us all. We all want to be happy. Intimacy (of all kinds) is a part of who we are and always will be. We all have a journey to live and love, and to all intents and purposes, a dildo or not, we all need to feel and be truly human.